According to a press release by the National Council on Family Relations, a new study in the Journal of Marriage and Family reports “ambivalent acceptance of divorce rather than a full embrace of it.” The study suggests that divorce rates may have plunged during the 20th Century, not necessarily due to acceptance of divorce but, rather, the absence of debate over its merits and pitfalls, thus creating ambivalence about divorce as a norm.
Perhaps partly reflecting the study, divorce and ambivalence during these tough economic times is now leading to compromise and “sticking it out”. According to the Sacramento Bee, divorce filings in Sacramento County slipped in 2008 from the previous year.
“I’m not surprised,” said Sacramento attorney Hal Bartholomew, president-elect of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers’ Northern California chapter. “Most divorce lawyers across the country are seeing a drop in new-client calls…people are postponing the decision to divorce.”
And it makes sense. Divorce can be costly, there is no beating around that. But only as costly as much as the parties are willing to cooperate. Instead of hiring attorneys, many couples are revisiting the decision to divorce using compromise and some ultimately reconcile.
If you just can not post pone your divorce and wish to go forward, please contact my office. I may be able determine your rights so in the long run you actually save money. My San Jose Divorce Lawyer offices can help you address the ambivalence surrounding the legal results of your decision. My San Jose Property Division offices can help you determine what financial assets would be potentially split.
If compromise cannot bring you and your loved one back together, my San Jose Divorce, Nullity and Separation offices can help make your divorce something more understandable to address and less ambivalent to accept.