I recently read an article with helpful tips for dating after divorce. After a divorce, dating can seem complicated. You’ve got money, property, loans or mortgages, children, and overall you’re cautious about getting into a new relationship. Here are some of the tips this article offers for the adventurous individual taking a chance again on love after Divorce:
Tip #1- Know what you want
According the article, there are two types of people who date after divorce: those who want to marry and those who want nothing to do with marriage. This rule should be obvious. If you want to get married again, then make sure you are dating someone who wants to as well. Know who you are. If you don’t want to marry, don’t date someone who does. If you do want to marry, don’t date someone who doesn’t. If you don’t know what you want, learn through the dating process. Figure out what you do and don’t want in a new mate.
Tip #2- Talk about religion, politics, and money on the first date
This rule used to be for those who don’t want to offend someone they hardly know. The article goes on to explain that, an older person who has already gone through a divorce is not likely to change their beliefs on life. Therefore it’s best to get those things out in the open. It may feel uncomfortable to talk about these things on a first date, but you’re probably at a point in your life where you don’t want to waste time avoiding important topics.
Tip #3- Ask the big questions
The article recommends to start asking important questions on the second date. Don’t be afraid to get at the core of the other person to know if you are wasting your time or not. (Some examples: Do you want to marry again? Do you want more children?) Don’t be afraid to ask. It’s better you know answers to important questions before becoming too involved with someone. If you don’t have the same hopes and aspirations, then you may need to move on.
Tip #4- Test your date and protect your children
This one is the big one and often fraught with danger. Make sure you are careful about introducing a new lover to your children. Only do so if you are serious about this one. Once you start getting more serious with someone have your date observe your children in a public place where they won’t notice your date. The goal is to see how they will react to your children without introducing them and getting them emotionally involved. You don’t want to invest time and emotions in someone who says they want kids, but is clearly scared when they actually see them.
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