Parents have a difficult time getting their kids to do their homework in normal circumstances. When the children are undergoing a divorce their academics take an even more backseat in their lives.
According to the author of the article, she often finds that these students often say they weren’t able to do their homework because they left their book, instructions, etc. at the other parents home.
The author notes that there are many factors for why children of divorce are missing out on their education. She notes that in many cases, one of the parents may have been more involved in checking the child’s homework or making sure that the homework was getting done during the marriage. Now that the parents are divorcing the parents may want to be the fun parent and may want to not be the parent responsible for enforcing the homework. In my opinion, once living separately both parents should become equally responsible for making sure the child studies and does homework.
Below are some of the underlying issues that might be causing the behaviors, as provided by various family therapists and facilitators the author consulted with:
* The stress from the divorce may cause parents to pay less attention to academics.
* Individual time with the child becomes more limited when adhering to a custody schedule and often times parents begin to focus more on having “quality time” rather than fighting over homework.
* Nobody wants to be the “bad guy” so parents may become more lenient in hopes of easing the stress on the child.
* Kids often feel a lack of control during divorce so they may play one parent off the other.
It may seem hard or maybe unattainable, but once parents recognize what the issue is, they can begin to implement steps to implement the steps to more effectively manage academics.
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