After the Divorce Judgement What Now?

As soon as judgment divorce papers are issued, you might think it’s time to start enjoying life again. An article I recently read says that according to a recent survey it can take an average of 17-18 months to get over a divorce.

The survey revealed that only after a year and half are divorcees really ready to move on. Six of ten people surveyed said the hardest thing to overcome was the sense of failure and 5% of those surveyed said even several years after the divorce they were still trying to come to terms. In total, a fifth said they will never truly get over a divorce and 55 percent said it was the worst thing they had ever gone through. The survey of 4,000 divorcees was carried out by the dating website www.fifties.com, which is caters to those 50 and over.

The survey also revealed startling differences in divorcees’ reactions to the news their marriage is officially finished. Although 43 percent felt relieved when their judgment came through, 31 percent were sad that it was over. Another 16 percent even said they felt distraught. The article states that while it might be an average of nearly 18 months before divorcees are totally content, they start feeling better about their life after 16 months. Around this time, it appears that divorcees start dating again. Fifty-eight percent of those surveyed arranged a meeting through friends and twenty-eight percent tried online dating sites. Also, about 49 percent of divorcees would rather meet someone who has had a similar experience. Ultimately, the emotions of those involved in a divorce can seem hard to cope with for what can feel like an eternity. Expect it to take a while for you to feel like your life is back to normal. Please do not give hope when youve gone through a traumatic process like a divorce. There are support groups, there are therapists, and there are a wide amount of things that you can participate in to make you feel like life can move on.

If you are in the midst of a traumatic divorce, please contact my San Jose Family Lawyers office. We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, Fremont, Milpitas, Los Gatos, Cupertino, Mountain View, and Santa Clara.

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